Many will disagree with the statement in the epigraph, because it is believed that happiness cannot be "made" with one's own hands, that it is a state that does not depend on our efforts. However, psychologists, thinkers and sages have repeatedly said that everyone can create a happy life for themselves. In this article we will try to find out - how to do it.
What is happiness?
Perhaps this is one of those questions to which there are no two identical answers, because happiness is different for everyone. What for different people is hidden under this ephemeral concept? And how different are people's ideas of happiness? Here are just a few examples.It is impossible to completely get rid of stress and negative experiences, but it is possible to learn to cope with your emotions and prevent their destructive impact.Philosophers' Opinion:
Happiness comes from doing good deeds and helping other people.
For children, happiness is more subject matter:
Happiness is when candy - and lots of it!!! Well, also when it's my birthday and lots of presents.Living life to the fullest, enjoying every moment, not dwelling on negative emotions - that is the essence of happiness.Adults often look for the answer to the main question in themselves, in those around them, and in the practicalities of life:
Happiness is when you want to live and work. When a man runs home after work by himself and willingly, when people adore and wait for you at home, when they trust you boundlessly, when they understand you! (Irina Terentyeva)
How to become a happy woman? Yes, very simple! Work to your liking, loved one near you, friends and relax - by the sea. (Elena Kochetkova)
In any case, everyone agrees that happiness is a purely personal feeling that can only arise "inside" a person. However, there are some universal tips, following which it is easier for people to find their own - unique - happiness.Learn to change the way you look at any situation and find positive meaning in it.
Optimism is the great driving force of life. It is so easy to give up and expect the worst out of life to avoid disappointment. But you need to find the strength to look at an unpleasant situation from the other side, derive some useful lessons from it, find the positive aspects even in the most difficult trial, and then just "let go" of unpleasantness and with a smile to meet new events. They are sure to make you happy.Find happiness in every moment of life
What prevents you from finding a little piece of the puzzle of happiness in a ray of sunshine peeking through the clouds, in the smile of a pleasant stranger passing by, or in your favorite song playing in your headphones? That's right, nothing! And of these little "fragments" of joy can make a whole picture of the great lasting feeling of harmony with the world and yourself. It is an art to enjoy life every day, but it can be mastered as well as any other.Change the way you think about yourself
Don't think badly of yourself. Never. Praise yourself more often, rejoice in your small and big successes, give yourself compliments. Very soon you will see how effective this methodology is. Many coaches ask their clients to write down five things each day that were the most successful or enjoyable of the day. Over time, by seeing the results of their activities, people begin to believe in themselves and strive for new accomplishments.
Set a New Goal for Your Life
Think about what you've been working toward lately. Is this what you dreamed of as a child, in your youth, two years ago? Aren't you lowering the bar on your goals? Say, last year you set yourself the goal of learning Spanish and going on a trip to Argentina, and then you decide that it's impossible, and you save up for a vacation in Turkey. There are virtually no unachievable goals, say leading motivation experts. If you set yourself a high target and do not retreat from the planned, then you'll not only achieve the desired, but along the way you will perform a lot of useful and interesting tasks and begin to believe in your strength a lot more than before. But do not put your goal above all else in the world, do not believe that to achieve it, you can step over the ethical principles. As a rule, such a path does not bring joy.Treat everything with humor.
If you are afraid to seem funny to people, to get into a silly situation, then sooner or later you will find yourself in that disadvantageous position. Do not try to control every moment of your life, it can not be done. It is better to treat any situation in life with a share of irony, looking with a smile at his involuntary blunders and not ridiculing others, but with humor, supporting loved ones, "sat in a puddle. Such an attitude will earn the gratitude and respect of others.
Forgive others. Forgive yourself
Do not judge others for their mistakes and failures and do not judge yourself. It is better to help someone to get out of a difficult situation, and then one day you will get a hundredfold return for the good you have done. Negativity and aggression directed at yourself or others will only exacerbate problems and color your life in dark tones.
Bringing Joy and Happiness to Others
One of the easiest ways to become happy is to make someone else happy. Psychologists see this as selfish, while philosophers say it's true altruism that gives you an incomparable feeling of joy. Whatever the subconscious motives, just remember how the smile blooms on your mother's face when you bring her flowers, how happy your dog is when you go for a walk with him, how grateful looks at you passerby, whom you returned the lost purse. Is it not happiness - to give others a moment of joy?
Treat others the way you would like others to treat you.
Do you want to be respected, valued for your abilities, helped out in difficult times, and share happy hours with you? Then do it all for your loved ones and just random people. Treat them with understanding, respect them, be kind to them. So you will not only earn the approval and support of others, but you yourself will start to treat yourself better. Become happy and loved is simple, you need to love others and try to make them happy.
Believe that you will succeed.
You will never succeed if you don't have complete confidence in yourself. It sounds harsh, but it's true. Reach the top, those who go to them, overcoming all obstacles and do not doubt for a minute in the rightness of his path. Belief in your strength, in your goals and dreams - this is what will help you even in the most desperate second. And remember: the result will surpass all your expectations, even the boldest.Don't wait until you become happy - start creating your own happiness now!
If you want to become a happy person, you will have to work a lot on yourself. But don't "swing" right away at great achievements, start small: for example, every day, standing in front of the mirror, say three sincere compliments to your reflection, or write down on a sheet of paper ten immediate goals and assign a pleasant reward for achieving each.
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